It was a disappointing weekend, now what?

So, we all know that sometimes weekends don’t go as planned, especially when it comes to dog shows and trials. You’ve probably seen all those amazing posts on social media with friends and their dogs winning ribbons and titles, right? But what about those who didn’t have such a great weekend? Maybe they didn’t qualify or their dog didn’t get the points they were hoping for. It can be tough for them, and that’s where you come in as a supportive friend or mentor.

First things first, it’s important to acknowledge their disappointment and let them know that it’s totally okay to feel that way. We’ve all been there! Don’t try to sugarcoat their feelings or brush them off. Give them the space to express their emotions and be there to listen.

Now, here’s how you can help them bounce back. Start by asking them about the positive moments from their weekend. What went well? Maybe they had an amazing connection with their dog,maybe their grooming was on point, or they simply enjoyed being out there with their dogs and friends. It’s all about finding those silver linings and reminding them of why they love dog sports in the first place.

If they’re feeling down about a specific aspect, like conformation shows, you can suggest exploring other venues like IABCA or UKC for a different experience than AKC shows. Or explore dog sports that have a different vibe. Maybe they need a sport that is less subjective or has a different vibe like trying Rally vs Obedience. Or they try a sport that has a more every dog feel or a less formal feel. There are lots of great alternatives if they’re looking for a change. And hey, if they think they have a conformation dog but it’s not winning, offer to record their performances so they can see how they compare to other handlers. Sometimes a little perspective can go a long way!

As a mentor or friend, your role is to provide honest feedback and support their journey. Shake things up when needed, but always respect that it’s their path to navigate. Your encouragement and cheering from the sidelines can make a world of difference.

Remember, disappointment is just a temporary setback. By helping them see the positive, exploring new possibilities, and offering your unwavering support, you can help them turn their disappointment into motivation and come back stronger than ever.